A Beginner’s Guide to Oral Sex
Dr. Jenni Skyler of the Intimacy Institute
Good sex includes oral sex. And good oral sex starts by opening your mouth—and not for licking or sucking—but rather for talking. Telling your partner what feels good is essential, especially if he/she is doing something that hurts. Ladies—no teeth! Gentlemen—use a little mouthwash and shave that beard, or be ready to stick your tongue out nice and far!
For licking the clit—otherwise clinically known as cunnilingus—start by arousing your woman by stimulating her brain, then her body and thighs, then her genitals. Once you tease her towards higher levels of arousal, then get ready to dip your tongue softly and sensuously around all areas of her vulva. Lick around her outer and inner lips, move to her clitoral hood, and if she’s not too sensitive, her clit. Keep it soft and sensuous until she guides you for more pressure and speed. You can softly suck on her clit and let your fingers wander inside to her g-spot, or outside on her perineum and/or anus—again, depending on what she communicates is comfortable. For extra stimulation, consider adding whip cream, ice, Altoids, or peppermint. The menthol in Altoids and peppermint tends to add an extra element of sensitivity.
For sucking the cock—otherwise clinically known as fellatio—start by tickling his body and his balls. When he’s aching for more, then go for the gold. Hold the base of his shaft and use your mouth on his head, licking and sucking as if he tastes like Glacier’s best ice cream. With your other hand, feel free to explore his perineum, testes, and/or anus, depending on what erogenous areas he tells you he enjoys. Typical sensitive areas include right under the head where the rim meets the shaft. As he gets more and more aroused, change the pressure and tempo according to how he directs you. And if you like a little extra stimulation, throw in the same elements mentioned above: whip cream, ice, Altoids, or peppermint.
Ladies—if deep-throating makes you gag, or his penis is bigger than can mouth, then throw in a hand or male sleeve to take up the slack at the base of the shaft.
Gentlemen—if you get neck cramps, switch back and forth from tongue to fingers. There is a great oral sex toy at Fascinations called a Sqwell that you can include as well. It’s has 10 soft, velvety, pink tongues on the rotating wheel to stimulate the clit.
For SAFE oral sex—Make it safe and sexy. Using flavored condoms and flavored lubricants can enhance the taste buds and help keep oral-genital herpes at bay. Try rolling the condom on with your mouth. (You may need to practice this with the cucumber or banana before hitting up the bedroom!) Condoms can also be cut in half to place over the vulva. Saran Wrap (non-porous, non-microwaveable) is also a great substitute to help prevent those oral-genital herpes. Flavored lubes can be dribbled all over the saran wrap to make the experience sexy and tasty.
Note 1: If you are using flavored condoms or lubes, change the condom before intercourse as the sugar from flavored materials can cause yeast infections.
Note 2: Keep talking about what feels good. Sex becomes stellar when you can tell your partner what gets you going!
**Come to a FREE workshop on THE ART OF ORAL SEX with Dr. Jenni Skyler on October 7th at 7:00 PM at the Fascinations store! More info at www.theintimacyinstitute.org
This post was inspired by this secret:
“I didn’t know licking something could be that hard… You know how I said you were good at eating me out? I lied, you scratched me like seven times, and slobbered all over me. It was more like torture than oral sex. Go ahead and be a ”player” and brag about it though…I just hope the next girl is a bitch enough to tell you what’s up.”
